God is like every loving father. He loves you and forgives you but loves you too much to ignore your sin. For he knows that if he does not deal with your sin by discipline (see Heb 12), you will remain in your sin and have a lousy life. And he has told us that “without holiness no one will see the Lord.” So he shakes his head over your sin, and plans to discipline you to get it out of you. Because he loves you he will discipline you. But he will not love you any less.